Use a large cast-iron skillet.Cut tops and tips off okra and cut into small pieces.Place pieces in strainer and wash thoroughly then allow to drain in strainer. You want it to stay slightly damp so the cornmeal will adhere to it.Heat 1 tablespoon butter and 3 tablespoons oil in skillet on medium-high heat. Coat the okra in the cornmeal and when the oil is hot, drop the okra into the skillet. (You can test the oil with one piece of okra – it should really sizzle if it’s hot enough.)Let the okra cook for a minute or two (watch carefully for burning) and then flip it and let it brown on the other side. After it gets nicely browned, turn the heat down a tad and stir it around then remove from skillet.You will probably need to add more butter/oil for each batch of okra as it soaks it up quickly.Remove okra from skillet with slotted spoon and place on paper towels to drain.