Cook onion, garlic, celery and okra in large skillet with 2 Tb of butter until golden brown, stirring constantly. Set aside. Make Roux, in heavy bottomed pot over medium high heat melt 1/4 cup butter, add flour and stir constantly until chocolate brown. DO NOT BURN. Add vegetable mixture and beef, cook until meat is browned evenly. Add water tomatoes and sugar. Stir, season with parsley, thyme, salt, bay leaves, cayenne and black pepper. Bring to a boil, reduce heat and simmer for 2 to 3 hours, stirring occasionally. Add sausage , crab and shrimp. ( I like to brown sausage a little before adding to pot) Add hot pepper sauce and worcestershire. add lemon juice. Simmer another 10 to 15 minutes. Serve over rice in bowl Great with fresh french bread and real butter